Cyber bullying victim didn't know what to do 'besides kill myself'

Cyber bullying victim didn't know what to do 'besides kill myself'

BAKERSFIELD, Calif. (KBAK/KBFX) — A 14-year-old girl sat timidly, telling her story of falling victim to cyber bullying.

"I didn't know what to do,” she said. “I just felt like cutting myself was the only thing for me to do, besides kill myself."

The cyber bullying started with social media website www.ask.fm. The site is used to ask anonymous questions.

The girl said in the beginning, the questions were innocent. But before long, some went so far as "slit your throat," "suicide," and "eat sleeping pills and die."

"It hurt, a lot. I wanted to actually do it," said the girl, who shared her story with Eyewitness News on condition of anonymity.

What’s worse, her mother feared it was her high school classmates behind the violent online messages.

"Only people at school would know that she has a crush on that boy or talked about this boy. It would be only people from school that would know that stuff," the mother said, also speaking to Eyewitness News on condition of anonymity.

School administrators said it's an increasing problem. Without the identities of the perpetrators, all they can do is to attend to the victims.

"Quite often, these cyber bullying assaults are coming from anonymous sites," said John Teves of the Kern High School District. "Anybody who's doing this kind of thing is a sadist, in the truest sense of the word. They're just inflicting pain on someone just for the sake of inflicting pain on them"

Without an identity or an additional crime, there isn’t much police can do.

"Cyber bullying is not a crime, in and of itself,” said Bakersfield police Sgt. Joe Grubbs. “If it's limited to cyber bullying, and your child’s being bullied online, and there's been no other type of assault, then we're somewhat limited."

Some states have passed laws making cyber bullying a crime, but that isn't the case in California.

Police said that leaves families to rely on themselves.

"It’s really a parent's responsibility to know what their child is doing," Grubbs said.

Schools can offer counseling, and police can provide resources.

But, for this family, that still isn't enough.

“We're trying to find help, and we can't find help nowhere," the mother said.